Grey-

Grey-, or Grey-A (also spelled with Gray instead of Grey) is an orientation prefix for those who relate with Anattractionality, yet feel that there are parts of their experience that aren't fully described by it. It is a term that describes the "fuzziness" between A- and Allo-.

It is an orientation under the Aspec umbrella. In itself, Grey- can be used as its own identity or as an umbrella term for Aspec orientations that are not strictly the A- of A-spec (Greyspec).

Some Grey- experiences may include:
 * Experiencing attraction infrequently.
 * Experiencing attraction frequently but not as frequent as Allo- people.
 * Experience attraction very weakly.
 * Feeling attraction but not desiring the typical action or relationship associated with it.
 * Feeling unsure about how to identify attraction and consequently feeling unsure about having experienced it or not.
 * Experiencing attraction that is only ambiguous.
 * Feeling attraction only in specific circumstances.
 * Finding Anattractionality a useful idea, even if it isn't a perfect fit.

Grey can also be combined with other orientations. For example, one could be Grey and Ply- (Grey Ply), meaning that one rarely experiences attraction, but when they do it's some but not necessarily all genders.

History
The concept of Grey orientations developed in the early 2000s on the AVEN forums. In 2003, an AVEN member proposed the concept of "Semisexuality," naming a half-way point between being Asexual and not.

Later, in April 12, 2006, AVEN member KSpaz proposed the term "Gray-A" to describe the "fuzzy" space in the A-Spectrum.

Orientations

 * Greysexual
 * Greyromantic
 * Greyaroace
 * Greyplatonic
 * Greyqueerplatonic
 * Greyalterous
 * Greysensual
 * Greyaesthetic

Subsets
For a more comprehensive list, see Category:Greyspec
 * Demi-
 * Fray-
 * Lightgrey-
 * Darkgrey-

Flags
Currently, there is no known general Grey- flag. However, Grey- flags exist for all the attraction types listed above.

Coining
"Alright, so don't know if this term is already around, but if not, I'm coining it now.

Gray-A

Is there really a line at which point you are asexual?

According to our logo there isn't. Just fuzziness.

So, this thread I dedicate to our fuzzy members who may sometimes feel unsure of their asexuality/sexuality.

Share your views, stories, whatever makes you think you'd like to call yourself Gray-A.

I'll start:

In simple terms, I have hetero attractions, can experience physical pleasure, and am indifferent (as opposed to repulsed) to the idea of having sex if it is with someone I care for (though can't imagine it for any situation without utmost trust involved).

I don't get turned on and jump my boyfriend (yes, I have one), but will respond to him in touchy ways and am pleased to do so willingly, because it does feel nice. If we never had sex, I would have no problem. But if we do some day, I probably won't mind, and may enjoy it to a degree. But as of now I don't think I'll ever actively seek it out.

I call myself asexual, because I am, and because I choose my label.

I'm betting there has to be others out here who fit better in the gray part of the triangle better than other areas, too, and I'm curious to hear from you, so fire away!"

- KSpaz