Lithromantic

Lithromantic (also called Akoiromantic, Akoineromantic) is a romantic orientation for those who may experience romantic attraction but does not want it reciprocated. The person may be uncomfortable at the thought of someone being romantically attracted to them, or they may lose their romantic feelings if they learn it's reciprocated. As such, Lithromantics may not feel compelled to seek out romance or a romantic relationship.

Some things Lithromantics may experience:
 * Feeling romantic attraction that fades upon being reciprocated
 * Fantasizing about being in a romantic relationship with someone, but preferring the relationship in theory rather than in reality
 * Feeling discomfort when being in a romantic relationship with one they're romantically attracted to
 * Experiencing romantic attraction but not wanting it reciprocated
 * Feeling romantically attracted to someone, but losing interest in the potential partner/relationship when it becomes a reality

Lithromantic can be a romantic orientation on its own or can combined with other orientations. For example, one could be Lithromantic and Biromantic, meaning that when one does experience romantic attraction it's towards two or more genders.

It is a romantic orientation on the Aromantic Spectrum, and more broadly, the A-spectrum.

Alternate Names

 * Akoineromantic
 * Akoiromantic

Pronounciation

 * Lith-ro-man-tick
 * Ah-coy-neh-ro-man-tick
 * Ah-coy-ro-man-tick

Etymology
Lithos means "stone" in Greek.

Koine means "common/shared/relationship", also in Greek.

History
The Lith- prefix has been credited to Ian of Tumblr blog StopAnthropomorphizingMe for its partner (Lithromantic) and himself (Lithsexual).

Due to a claim of appropriating Lesbian culture, some people have attempted to replace the term Lith with Akoine/Akoi, an alternate prefix coined by CisphobeOfficial on May 18, 2014. This is due to the fact that Lithos, the word Lithromantic comes from, means "stone". In the lesbian community a stone lesbian is a lesbian who is okay with being the giver of sex acts, but not with being the receiver of sex acts. Because of that "lithsexual" could potentially be interpreted as being related to this term. Ian have talked about the claims and refuted it, explaining Lith- and stone are different, similar but not the same. How it is not appropriation when it's a new term that just draws on a similar one.

"But drawing on pre-established terminology when you create new terminology isn’t appropriative. It’s just linguistics."

- Ian of StopAnthropomorphizingMe

Ian also talked about how stones are not even all women and/or Lesbians, when historically Transmasculine people and Lesbians have blurred the lines for decades.

There has not been any consensus about the term, both in the A-spec and Lesbian community. There is no apparently evidence that the specific term "Lithromantic" was ever commonly used by Lesbians. Currently, Lithromantic and Akoiromantic are used interchangeably.

Flags
The red yellow Lith flag was created by Tumblr user TheJasmineElf around or before April 17, 2014. The flag is shared between Lithsexual and Lithromantic. The color meanings are as follows: Red (#F14952) represents community, as it is traditionally a color of leadership, life, and sensitivity. Orange (#FF9E5E) represents Lith-ness, as it does on a version of the Aromantic flag. Yellow (#FFF546) represents varied relationships, also as it does on on the mentioned Aromantic flag, it also traditionally represents friendship, loyalty, and honor. White (#FFFFFF) represents romanticism and sexuality. Black (#2D2D2D) represents Aromanticism and Asexuality.